The car battery went died: what an embarrassment

Earlier in the day, I had been attending the British American Tobacco annual general meeting for shareholders which went well I must say. In fact, it was an early weekend booster for me as we were offered a fine cocktail party to wrap up the day. However, the most delightful part of the day was interacting with other shareholders along with some soothing live jazz. Despite the pleasurable fun activities, it was getting late. Besides, drinking and driving has never been my style.

So, here I was in the parking lot of Sheraton Kampala Hotel and ready to drive off when my car engine suddenly refuses to start. Meanwhile my sister was waiting for me at a certain rendezvous point where she had been for over 15 minutes. I immediately informed her about my frustration and she decided to come to where I was. Our conclusion was that the battery was dead. However, we did not have the slightest idea on how to go about a dead battery. While I was busy fidgeting with the battery, a man who was driving by curiously asked “are you having battery issues?” Responding almost simultaneously, we both said “yes”.

Our Samaritan immediately made a U-turn and came to our rescue. He parked his car right next to mine and without wasting any time, he instantly unleashed his jump-starters and used them to connect his battery to my dead one. As expected, the engine was alive again. With our innocent smiles, we both said thank you to him and off he went. Sadly, we never asked for his name, something my sister and I realised a few seconds after he had left. Nonetheless, at that particular point in time, we were glad he had helped and were getting ready to leave; all so we thought. On turning on the head lamps, the battery went dead again. Imagine the look on my face. Upon turning to my sister, she too had on her face the look of disappointment.

While still wondering what we were going to do next, there he was again, our Good Samaritan – sort of in a flash with the expression as if wondering what we were still waiting for. As soon we informed him that the battery had died again, he immediately stepped out of his car, got out his jump-starters and used them to connect his battery to mine. Again, as expected, the engine was alive. Afterwards, he was very explicit when he said: “do not turn off your head lamps until you reach your destination”.  We took heed of his advice and did just that. This time round I needed to know his name. He went by Eric. As if helping us jump-start the battery wasn’t enough; Eric was so kind as to point us to the shortest route to our destination. In fact, he did not do just that. He asked that we follow him just to make sure we got the directions right. This man deserved a big bear hug indeed. I was so impressed by his patience and overwhelming willingness to help two stranded strangers. If it wasn’t for him, I believe my sister and I would have indeed been stranded at Sheraton Hotel or perhaps abandoned the car there for the night.

Thank you so much Eric and God bless you.

 

Tags: British American Tobacco, car battery, Eric, good Samaritan, gratitude, jump-start, life, little things, Sheraton Kampala Hotel

Cyber Bullying: The meanest girl I have ever met. Part II

PLEASE BE ADVISED THAT THIS PARTICULAR BLOG ARTICLE IS RATED 18 AS IT CONTAINS BAD AND MATURE LANGUAGE

So, here I am busy checking my mail, completely forgotten about yesterday’s confrontation with Eunice; when a chat message comes in. It was from Eunice.

I was in shock. Apparently, yesterday’s insults were not enough she had to continue being mean to me today. Again, I refused to retaliate. As mentioned earlier, I had forgotten about what she had done so I dint even think for a second about deleting or blocking her email address from my Gmail account. Nonetheless, as she went on and on with her war of words, I immediately opened another tab to perform a Google search about how to delete and block someone on Gmail. By the time I found a precise guideline, mean girl’s insults had escalated to from bad to worse. So here we go again:   

Eunice: What are you still doing on my chat? Please delete me ASAP

Atenu: Have you tried deleting me? I think you should

Eunice: I unfriended you on Facebook. Do the same on Gmail. I don’t want to see your ugly face ever again. I deleted you on Facebook

Atenu: I refuse to be bothered by you my dear

Eunice: Delete me on Gmail young fool

Atenu: Should I be bothered by that?

Eunice: Me am bothered I don’t want to see your name appearing on my chat and am not your dear. To me you’re dead. Disregard my name immediately. I already did that on Facebook. To me you’re dead. Thank you. We shall meet in Heaven or hell whatsoever. If you weren’t bothered you wouldn’t be replying me. DELETE ME NOW (At this point, I badly wanted to block Eunice from my Gmail, but I wasn’t sure of how to do it, so I was busy on Google trying to search how it’s done)

Atenu: Then why did you send me the messages.

Eunice: I sent the messages because I hate you

Atenu: There you go again… typing typing typing. Stop typing. So may I know why you hate me?

Eunice: Delete me now you slut

Atenu: What did I ever do to you? Aaah so am slut now?

Eunice: I hate you because of your attitude. It’s a small world young lady. That attitude ain’t taking you anywhere trust me

Atenu: Indeed it’s a small world. We shall meet again like we did the last time; when you completely had no idea how to start apologizing amongst our mutual friends.

 Eunice: You din’t have to be rude yesterday

 Atenu: hahaha so is that why you hate me

 Eunice: You’re just a looser

 Atenu: I see now. Well, I thought you knew me. You should have anticipated my exact response. Me? A looser? At least I am very happy where I am now, and I can NEVER insult others over things I don’t have.

 Eunice: Do u have a car? What model? Try searching about me, you will be shocked with what I have

Atenu: So then, if you have everything, why do you have to insult me over a simple dress?

Eunice: oooh please, I was just flattering you. I remembered how your ass is flat. So you don’t have any nice dresses

Atenu: God created me in His own Image. I am happy, very happy the way I am. Should I be sad because I am flat?

Eunice: Am very good at flattering

Eunice: FLAT ASS

Eunice: Flat ass madam hehehehe. Am very sure you’re not happy about your flat ass. So you can keep your bu dresses flat ass

Atenu: Wanna bet whether I am happy or not????

Eunice: I don’t think I have your time. Am at work. So you’re entertaining me because you don’t have a job

Atenu: GOOD BYE Eunice

Eunice: STUPID. Thanks for the entertainment. I was bored FLAT ASS, flat kabina. Once in a while you should have people who put down your pride heheheheh FLAT KABINA

Eunice: I got a dress by the way at 150K so keep your bu dresses flat ass. Am happy that I have put you in your place. I want to know the model of your car. Nanti wepanka panka (being a poser). Am sure it’s your father who bought you that ride because he sells car

Eunice: nanti (because) you’re a poser

Atenu: After insulting my late Mum, you now want to insult my Dad?

Eunice: I want to weigh you stupid and I don’t care

Atenu: Exactly. You shouldn’t be caring

Eunice: I want to put you in your place

Atenu: If you don’t care, then get back to your job

Eunice: hmmm how can I not have a car at my age?

Eunice: Do you even have a job?

Eunice: hahahaha you’re hurt and am happy. I like it when I hurt people hehehehe dying of nugu (jealousy) yet?

Eunice: Oba (or) you think we don’t know about you. You used to spread your legs in South Africa we all know that

Atenu: Are you just confirming to me what you do or? And while at hostel?

Eunice: Oohh please I spread my legs to one guy in Akamwesi and you know that

Atenu: Is that what people like you do to get by?

Eunice: You wish. No wonder you don’t have a man to F***you with your flat ass hahahha am enjoying this. hohohohohoh I even hear you’re sick do you swallow ARVS

Atenu: Did my being in South Africa really piss you off too; you have to make up stuff to insult me? Please go on. What if I did I spread my legs while there, what does it matter to you?

Eunice: I can get you a man to F*** your flat ass. Have you ever tasted it? hehehehe

Atenu: Are you saying you want to get me those men who pay to sleep with them. NO THANK YOU

 

Eunice: God din’t create ugly pussy. hehehe hahahaha am sure your starved sexually. Am not starved like you. Sorry kasweetie (sweetheart). I wish you would entertain me every day. I was so bored.

Eunice: So when was the last time you had sex. You must be starving. I can get you your Dad.

Eunice: Try sleeping with your father the short man his short and ugly Bitch

Eunice: I was told that u have completely failed to get a job. Talk to me nicely. Come and I employ you. Come sell your pussy. Bitch I hear it’s what you do best

Atenu: Who told you I have failed to get a job?

Eunice: I thought you don’t care

Atenu: Eunice, whatever I did to piss you off, I apologise

Eunice: Oh, you’re not getting hurt are you?

Eunice: hehehehe nanti (because) you’re a poser so am trying to put you in your place you’re such a poser. That’s what I do to posers

Eunice: Cathy for crying out loud, you don’t feed me

Atenu: You don’t feed me either, so why are you so pissed with me? I really want to know

Eunice: I don’t care whether you have more money than me,,.dresses etc

Atenu: Again, why are you pissed?

Eunice: Bibyo (they are yours)

Atenu: Is it South Africa, the dress, your job, parents; what?

Eunice: I said am putting you in your place

Atenu: Please go on

Eunice: BTW am finishing my Masters from Makerere. So, South Africa and Makerere which is better?

Atenu: GOOD BYE GOOD BYE GOOD BYE (I had finally figured it out; how to delete and block someone on Gmail).

Eunice: YOU ARE NOT ANY BETTER CATHY

What must one to do when they are insulted by someone as mean and insignificant as Eunice? In my opinion, dealing with such people can be quite complex. So, to avoid any episodes of feeling hurt and stressed about it, I think it’s best to ignore such people and let them be, how ever insensitive they maybe.  Take for instance, she insulted my Late Mum. This was a person so dear to me (May she Rest in Peace). I am still not sure how to react to that particular insult. But my guess is she has never lost a loved one and isn’t aware of the pain one goes through when they lose a loved one or someone so close. I don’t wish this on any body not even Eunice, but I refuse to be stressed by whatever she said. I will simply let all her insults land on deaf ears and I hope you do the same should you encounter such a mean person. 

PS. If you feel that the person insulting you may cause you physical harm, please inform someone.  Even if you’re emotionally or psychologically hurt, AGAIN, please talk to someone. Never ever keep it to yourself.

Stay well everybody and God bless you

 

Tags: acquaintances, Cyber bullying, Eunice Musiime Dianah, friendships, growing up, HIV/AIDS, human beings, insults, marriage, mean girls, men, Relationships, what goes around comes around, women

Cyber bullying: The meanest girl I have ever met. Part I

PLEASE BE ADVISED THAT THIS PARTICULAR BLOG ARTICLE IS RATED 18 AS IT CONTAINS BAD AND MATURE LANGUAGE

Communication and interaction with other has been revolutionized by various social networks such as Facebook. With these websites in plenty, one is not only able to meet new people online, but also reconnect with those you went to school with. Unless otherwise, there is really no need to communicate or interact with them face to face since you can meet online. As a result, it’s normal for most of your online friends to assume solid friendships regardless of any physical interaction. This isn’t such a bad thing. I mean, you must be having online friends, especially those you’ve never met. But you’re friends; right?

Well, the case with my ex acquaintance Eunice Musiime isn’t any different.

Eunice and I did not only attended the same university; Makerere, but also resided in the same hostel. While at Akamwesi hostel, she and I shared some friends. However, we never really formulated the foundation for our own friendship. Following the completion of our degrees, we both went separate ways. But like many others, we met again online after several years. We accepted each other’s invitations on Facebook as well as exchanged emails. We did indulge in a few chats as well as comment on each other’s statuses but not regularly. We also exchanged email addresses. However, ‘out of the yellow’, Eunice contacts me. As mentioned earlier, our chats were not regular. Therefore, she and I last chatted nearly two years ago. She wanted to borrow a dress from me proposing to wear it at a wedding ceremony this weekend. Putting into consideration our less interconnected relationship, I wasn’t enthusiastic about her contacting me. That said, her request was denied. No wasn’t the answer she expected let alone wanted. My negative response immediately caused her to create a mountain out of a molehill; except, this time, the mountain blew up, so to speak. Here is what I presume will be our last conversation which left me very speechless:  

Eunice: Hi. Please text me your number on +256772188075, bambi (please) I need your help. Mposi (by the way) where do you stay?

Atenu: What kind of help?

Eunice: Bambi (please) I need to borrow from you. Sorry for the kamanyiks (intrusion). I have a wedding on Saturday. Please get /borrow me a nice dress

Atenu: You’re kidding Right???? Are you for real, I mean really??

Eunice: Why? What do you mean am kidding?  Is it bad to borrow my dear? Or is it out-dated

Atenu: A dress???

Eunice: Oba (or) is borrowing out-dated? Yeah a dress

Atenu: No. It’s not bad to borrow

Eunice: So why are you being rude???

Atenu: Not bad at all but from me????

Eunice: Yes. You have nice dresses I guess

Atenu: We barely talk let alone know each other. Don’t you think it’s kinda odd??

Eunice: oohh please just chill. Sorry for the bother. It won’t happen again. TRUST ME. Naye (but) people can change

Atenu: Am sorry your emergency is very insufficient

Eunice: You know what Kathey, F*** YOU

Atenu: Please let it never happen again

Eunice: hhhhhmmmmmmmmmmm YOU’RE WEIRD BTW. Am surprised

Atenu: Did you just swear at we

Eunice: WEIRD. YES I DID F*** YOU. Twakoowa attitude (We got fed up of people with attitude like you).

Atenu: Do you know what I do to people like you??

Eunice: THREATNEN ME am listening. Kale (but) YO JUST A BITCH I SWEAR. Oba (is it) because you went to South Africa? What is SA? Bullshit just

Atenu: Let me first confirm your number

Eunice: It’s kawa (ok). Am not threatened by the way,

Atenu: U gave it to me once, you know

Eunice: yes I did. Now GO TO HELL

Atenu: No ain’t threatening. I just cannot retaliate. I just write about you. Such insignificant people like you my dear. I write. It makes me feel very sane.

Eunice: ooh please. Keep writing

Atenu: Thanks for the permission. Will do. Goodbye

Eunice: It’s all good. You chic, you think you will never die. It’s a very small world by the way. If you’re the Atenu that I know, that attitude ain’t taking you anywhere madam. Kale (but) am sooo pissed. I remember in Akamwesi hostel. You used to be the top BEGGER. Begging around. Kati mbu now oli mazi mawanvu (Now you’re pretending to be having too much money). STUPID. It’s as if you don’t bogg (to poo)??

Atenu: Are you just having a bad day or??? What’s with the abuses over a dress???

Eunice: Why do you have to be rude in the first place? Defecate

Atenu: You said you knew me?

Eunice: If we weren’t talking why did you have to write to me asking me if I had gone to see Nicola? YOU KNOW WAT

Atenu: If you know me, why then would you borrow from me? Of all people

Eunice: REST IN PEACE. I din’t expect that kind of attitude

Atenu: Me? You and I barely talk to me?

Eunice: Since you had been in South Africa, I expected you to be having some nice dresses. Are you denying you don’t know Nicola?

Atenu: When did I ever write to you?

Eunice: If you don’t know who Nicola is? Ask your nose then

Atenu: See her when and about what?

Eunice: ASK YO BUMS. You’re even wasting my time STUPID. Go and write

Atenu:

Eunice: You chick, don’t be stupid :-/ Am now seeing why you have failed to get married. YOU HAVE A VERY BAD ATTITUDE. That’s why your Muteso (Ugandan tribe) boyfriend chucked you. Ok good night. Sleep well you mean bitch. You are free to write. Next time revise your words. It’s a very small world. You might even die tomorrow, just like how you Mum died.

Well, am not sure if I should be mad about what Eunice did; insulting the memory of my Late Mum in this manner. But what I do know is; what goes around will most definitely come around. Therefore, I will play deaf and dumb and most especially, leave this battle for my God Almighty to handle.

God Bless you! 

 

Tags: acquaintances, Eunice Musiime Dianah, friendships, growing up, HIV/AIDS, human beings, insults, marriage, mean girls, men, Relationships, what goes around comes around, women

How to make a lettuce roll

A lettuce roll consists of mainly raw vegetables. One may mix as many vegetables as desired. My lettuce roll included: lettuce, cucumber, onions, tomatoes, avocado, salt and vinegar. To prepare the lettuce roll;

• Wash all the vegetables properly prior to preparation
• Make sure you have a cutting board to simplify your work.
• Get one leaf of lettuce and place it on a flat plate. Put this aside for later use
• Cut the tomatoes and onions into small cubes; just like you would kachumbali
• Equally, cut the avocado and cucumber into small cubes
• Mix all the cubes together then add salt and vinegar to taste
• Get the leaf of lettuce you had placed aside. Put the freshly cut vegetable cubes inside the lettuce leaf.

                    

• Roll the vegetable cubes inside the lettuce leaf and it’s ready to eat.

 

• To eat this lettuce roll, hold it like you would a burger and take the first bite.

Remember to make the lettuce roll a few minutes towards meal time. Otherwise, the lettuce will lose its crunchiness and wither.

Enjoy!

 

Tags: cucumber, detoxify, diet, eating vegetable, Food, how to make, Lettuce, lettuce roll, onions, salt, to, tomatoes, vegetables, vinegar, Weight loss

When did you last detoxify your body: my lemonade diet experience

As far as my eating habits are concerned, the period between June 2011 and March 2012 will always be a memorial one. My eating habitd had changed from eating vegetables, fruits, fibres, good fat on a daily basis and watching my calories intake to eating everything. By ‘everything’ I mean including junk food. It was that bad. During this period, I think I must have eaten the most amounts junk food in my life; from french fries, grilled chicken, fried pork/fish, alcohol, rolex (Ugandan local name for and egg rolled in chapati), even KFC, you name it, I ate it all. However, like many other things, junk food shoudn’t be addictive. And we never got to the addictive stage junk food and I. This is not to say I cannot eat this stuff anymore. It’s only that I ate junk in large quantities without minding how many pounds I was adding. It was a nice feeling I must say (enjoying all the yummy but unhealthy foods). But, after eating I always had that stressful feeling of “I have to workout and shed off the extra fat. I did workout almost daily. But of course my efforts to maintain my weight were all in vain since I never really limited the number of calories I consumed. This interfered with the process. And the result as expected was weight gain. By the end of March 2012, I had increased from 58kgs to 63kgs, become unfit and very untoned. Although I did not add such an alarming amount of weight, I was constantly bothered by the fact that I carried on me what looked and felt like baby fat. I also felt quite heavy. Gosh I hated the feeling, but I knew I had to do something immediately before it got to the point of no return

First, I needed to detoxify my body and I instinctively thought about the lemonade diet. Also known as the Master Cleanser diet, the Lemonade diet is not one for losing weight although weight loss maybe one of the visible effects. This diet is meant to detoxify your body and cleanse it by removing all toxins that may have accumulated over a long period of time. It can be done from once to thrice a year. However, it is recommended that you consult your medical doctor prior to commencing such a challenging diet or any other for that matter.

It seemed like such a long period of time, but my Lemonade diet experience only lasted 10 days. The diet must include; water, organic lemons and maple syrup. However, since I was unable to get hold of maple syrup, I instead chewed sugar cane (this is a recommended alternative) on a daily basis. I felt so weak on the first couple of days but eventually, my body got adapted to the 8 glasses of lemonade and a few sugar cane chews. I ate NOTHING ELSE for 10 days. During this period, one shouldn’t eat any solid food or other liquids (not even water), just your lemonade. This gives the lemonade a chance to cleanse all your body organs without any interference. The recommended minimum period to undertake such a diet is 10 days, whereas the maximum is 40 days.     

I followed my workout schedule for seven of the ten days and on the last day, I was very excited. I wasn’t excited because I had completed my 10 days of fasting, that was expected of me. I was excited because I was finally going to be able to taste salt again after such a long time without it (I do not have a sweet tooth; I prefer salty stuff). However, one cannot consume solid foods immediately after the days of fasting. Orange juice is recommended on the first day after the lemonade diet. Orange juice will prepare the digestive system to properly digest and assimilate regular food. On the second day, I continued drinking orange juice complementing it with water. Each glass of orange juice contains 120 calories, hence some water is recommended to reduce on the calories intake. For my evening meal, I ate vegetable soup. On the third day I had vegetable soup for lunch and fruit salad for dinner. I started regular solid food on the fifth day.

As I write this blog, I feel so great and light headed. I could have lost some weight, am not sure, but I strongly believe that the secret to losing or maintaining your weight is not dieting or starving, but rather eating healthy foods and exercising on a regular basis. This has alwayd been my endeavour since my early adulthood and I will keep at it for as long as am able to. If a healthy life style and living longer is also one of your goals in life, take heed of my last statement and follow it to the latter. Of course you most certainly have to put into consideration all the other things one can do in order to stay healthy and live longer; such as managing your stress levels.

Good luck

Tags: body activities, body cleansing, calories, detox, detoxify, exercises, Food, junk, junk food, lemonade diet, maintain weight, master cleanser, Weight loss, workouts

My strategy to remedy short temperedness

When someone hurts you, it is never a good idea to pretend or hide your feelings. God knows I am unable to do that. Even if I did, my facial expression would tell that something is wrong. I often want to discuss an issue as soon as it occurs. However, I prefer to do so after calming down; a few hours perhaps. But remedying the issue immediately will lead me to raise my voice; which is not a good way of handling issues. Calmness, understanding as well as taking responsibility for thee actions (however small they may be) are paramount in resolving relationship problems.

Many people barely hang around short-tempered people, let alone get into intimate relationships with them. Since I acknowledged that, I have tried to remedy my ill-tempered manners. I try to read a lot of literature short-temperedness, talk to people, and even engage in mediation and self-awareness exercises. Most of the literature, however revolves around shutting up, breathing deep and slow counting from 1 – 10. The goal here is to handle whatever issue that’s bothering me in a very, very calm way.

Despite my relationship end and however emotionally damaged it may have caused me, I cannot give up. I will keep going and perhaps someday, my partner at the time is able to understand, appreciate and take me for who I am (even with my shortcomings).

Ok, enough of the venting!

Watch the space for my next blog.

Cheers!

 

Tags: men, Relating, Relationships, short temper, women

I am short-tempered…so what?

I overreact sometimes to what may seem small to others. I get defensive, argumentative and to sum it all up, I become distant. I start the silent treatment so to speak. Critics suggest that such short-tempered people should be handled in the right way.  Say for instance, if you had an autistic child, wouldn’t you want to understand the problem and know how to treat them right? Compare this to short temperedness; would it hurt you to understand and know how to handle a short-tempered spouse, friend anyone. Should short tempered people be treated like some sort of scary disease and be banished from you life. Must they be alone and without any kind of relationship or happiness? I believe no. But if you think they deserve the seclusion, then I suggest you stop reading here.

The fact is short-tempered people can be a handful. They may be disrespectful; they will most certainly answer back whilst in and argument and will do so in a raised voice. They could also hurt you emotionally. For many people, this seems like alot to deal with. It is often difficult to understand short tempered people. No wonder people call me difficult, but do i deserve the name calling? You may call it special treatment but, this is how a short-tempered person should be handled:

• Allow them to say whatever is on their minds and never interrupt them while they do so
• Telling them to ‘calm down’, ‘relax’ or ‘it’s okay’ only makes things worse. Also, never tell them that they are overreacting. They will most certainly realise this eventually.
• Never stop or contradict whatever they are saying even though you feel like whatever is being said is utterly wrong.
• When it comes to short-tempered people, being disrespectful to you is never intended. It is in fact possible that their behaviour has absolutely nothing to do with you. Therefore, the patience of the other party matters. So be patient until it blows over.
• Listen to them patiently and try not to offer your opinion about something unless asked.  If you agree to what has been asked, well and good; but if you don’t agree, just nod you head or something but never show them that you are in disagreement. State your disagreements when the person finally calms down.
• Complaining about their short temperedness doesn’t help at all. Simply be patient and bear with the situation until the person calms down. Most short-tempered people often realize their extreme responses and will feel guilty about it. They will also eventually apologise to you. However, try not to expect an apology. It’s not guaranteed.

 

Short tempered people were created this way. However, this is no excuse for the outbursts all the time. That said, it really helps if those around such people treated them I described earlier.

Tags: break-ups, how to handle a short tempered girlfriend, Relationships, short-tempered